A few weeks ago I had the privilege of doing a photoshoot completely for fun with three fabulous women, two of whom I had never met before that day. I don’t know why but I was sooo nervous! I knew that there was no pressure and the point of the shoot was for the photographer, hair stylist, and makeup artist to practice their work and get different experiences but I was just SO nervous.
I modeled with an agency a couple years ago for about a year and didn’t love it. I met some INCREDIBLE people ( which is how I was asked to do this photoshoot actually! ) and not all of it was bad, but looking back I was mentally & physically very unhealthy and always super stressed out. Not everyone was this way, but constantly being told you are not skinny enough, then being told you are too skinny, or that your hair wasn’t long enough or the right color. Or that your left eye was bigger than your right eye, so no sorry, we can’t cast you for this shoot, really starts to wear on a girl.
You just don’t forget comments like that, or how they made you feel at the time. ESPECIALLY when those comments came from other women. And those feelings can come back to you at random, for what may seem to be no good reason at all.
It doesn’t mean you don’t have great self confidence ( because we all do, RIGHT? ), it just means that we need to shift our mindsets a little bit, and be sure we have the right people in our lives.
This post isn’t meant to be a sob story, or like an oh poor Madison post, though. This post is meant to bring up the women who are a little scared to work with other women. We’ve all had experiences that made us feel less than enough, and we probably won’t forget them, but instead of letting them bring us down, we need to replace them with experiences that bring us UP.
Which is what happened a few Sunday’s ago with this amazing team of women I had the opportunity to work with. And I now feel like I have three amazing women I get to call friends that I didn’t have before.
WE HAD SO MUCH FUN. I honestly had forgotten how much fun playing with clothes, hair, makeup and a camera could be! I realized it’s all about who you surround yourself with.
I can look at these pictures and feel so great about that day and it makes me so happy!
And I’m not saying you need to go set up a photoshoot with hair and makeup to realize that there are other women out there who you can work with to change your bad experiences to good ones. What I am saying is that is possible to find women in whatever industry you are in, weather that’s your job, a hobby you have, or even just certain stores you like to shop at, that have a similar view that you do, that can change your bad experiences to good ones.
I know, I know, you’re like “but how am I supposed to find these women?!” I don’t have a step by step plan that can help, unfortunately. My advice is to not get discouraged! Keep putting yourself out there and meeting new people anyway, anytime that you can! I can promise you that sooner or later you will find some like minded women who probably have been looking for the same thing you have!
It’s so important to bring yourself, and the people around you UP, not down. It really just makes all the difference in the whole world.
I thought it would be so fun to include how these curls were achieved! So, I had Emily write out an easy step by step on how to achieve these curls:
Photographer: Jami Clayman | Makeup Artist: Trish Halker | Hair Stylist: Emily Alders
If you are in the Dallas/Fort Worth area and need a photographer, makeup artist or hair stylist, those are your girls!!
What are ya’lls favorite ways to meet new friends?!